How to Adapt to Life as a New Mum

Becoming a parent is the most life-changing experience imaginable, so it is only natural that making the change from being ‘you’ to being ‘mum’ is going to take a lot of getting used to. During your pregnancy, you may have read all of the parenting and baby books that you could get your hands on, but nothing quite prepares you for the reality of life as a parent. From the moment that you hold your baby in your arms for the very first time, your focus shifts and suddenly nothing else really matters.

While antenatal classes can help prepare you for taking care of your baby and what to expect in terms of sleepless nights and feeds, they can’t prepare you for the tonne of hormones that hit you and the way that this massive change in your life leaves you feeling.

Becoming a parent is both the most wonderful job in the world and the toughest, and bringing your new baby home is just the start of your incredible journey as a new parent. These tips will hopefully provide you with some reassuring advice as you adapt to life as a new mum:

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A Rainbow Themed Gift Guide

I’m not really sure what came first in my life, the love of women or the love of Rainbows. Either way, both make me incredibly happy and with Pride season on it’s way I now have the perfect excuse to top up our collection of Rainbow goodies in the house.

Over the past decade I’ve collected an array of rainbow themed goodies; from flags to socks, and that didn’t change when our son came along. If, like me, you’re a fan of a rainbow or two, I’ve created the perfect little gift guide to help you a long the way to building your own unique collection.  Continue reading

LGBT History Month: Why Our Son Will Never Be an Ally.

Last year, I started a fantastic new book by Frank Lowe called ‘Raised by Unicorns‘, which is a collection of stories by people with LGBTQ+ parents. It’s one of those books that I’ve really savoured as I simply don’t want it to end. It’s raw and unfiltered, and regardless of it’s audience, it teaches the reader about acceptance.

Before I get started, if you’d like to give it a read, you can find it here.

Over the past few weeks it’s made me laugh, it’s made me cry, it’s made me reflect, and it’s whilst I was reading one of the chapters that I started to think about T’s position within the LGBTQ+ community.

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I Heart Sundays

The last two weeks saw a change in routine for us as I had a training course that I had to attend, meaning that Sharon and I had to do a switch when it came to childcare (which was easier said than done! Talk about military operation!). This meant Sharon did the nursery drop offs and I did pickups which, by the way, were uh-maze-zing. Driving home from my course was like driving home for Christmas. I couldn’t wait to see his face and talk about his day.

The change in routine also meant that I was able to be a part of a lot more bedtimes (something that I miss dearly as I work late shifts) as well as full weekends! This may sound odd, but to manage our childcare costs I work 80% late shifts; which includes weekends, and due to the pattern that I also have to follow so I can see my team I work most weekends.

I get one full weekend off in six weeks. SIX. That’s a lot of days out and family get-togethers missed. So when I was enrolled onto the course, the first thing I was looking forward to was the weekends and I was going to make sure we made the most of them!

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Milestones: The Last Year

A few weeks ago Sharon and I submitted T’s application for Primary Schools, and as soon as we pressed ‘submit’ it hit us. It suddenly dawned on us that this would be the last year of doing so many things that we’re currently used to, and I’m a little sad.

From family holidays whenever we wanted to midweek trips to Pets At Home (aka the free zoo), we’ve been free to do as we pleased, but next year it’ll be very different. It’ll no longer be us against the local coffee house. It’ll be school drop offs and pick ups, after school clubs, school uniforms! There will be less time for ‘us’.

Or so it feels anyway.

Although this isn’t the first time things have changed, our routine changed drastically when he started nursery and I went back to work after maternity leave, for some reason this feels different. Nursery doesn’t feel full on or as intense as school does (perhaps because he doesn’t go full time?), so it doesn’t seem like he’s being taken away from us as much or for as long. Where as with school he’s going to be there almost double the amount of time as nursery what with the likelihood of after-school clubs!

Whilst I’m incredibly excited to start this new chapter, I can’t help but feel a sense of dread and regret that I’ve missed some amazing opportunities or not made the most of the time we’ve had together.

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