Visibility: Why We Do What We Do

Yesterday, I was invited to chat to Anna Foster of BBC Radio 5 Live about sperm donors and how there is now an increase in demand for them outside of the realms of the NHS. We talked about what we went through and what *should* be common practise when deciding to do at-home artificial insemination (AI).

It certainly wasn’t your average Monday and throughout the whole interview I was asking myself why on earth I was sharing such personal details about our son’t conception (legs up in the air and all). It was an experience, and whilst I was incredibly anxious about the whole thing I was driven by our story and getting it out there so that others out there could see some form of hope. That there are other options when it comes to conception.

If you would like to listen to the whole feature, you can skip through to 10:12 via the link above.
(I’m on at 39:00).

The main concern within the interview surrounded the regulation of certain Facebook groups where couples, usually Lesbian couples, can find sperm donors, and how risky this is. It also briefly explored how the NHS need to change their stance on when they offer support for same sex couples.

Basically, if the cost to have a baby wasn’t so high – then perhaps women wouldn’t be taking the risks to have a baby.

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Brighton Pride 2018: Why Pride is still important.

Over the past thirty-something years, I’ve been ‘proud’ of many things. I was proud when I got a few A’s in my GCSE’s (I know, I was surprised, too), I was proud when I passed my driving test, I was proud when I lost a lot of weight whilst trying for a baby, and more recently, I was proud when I conquered my fear of open heights.

Pride isn’t just about being proud of yourself either, you can be proud of your friends, family, and colleagues. Your neighbours, your congregation, your country. Pride has so much power behind it. It can empower people and celebrate a community. There is nothing wrong with being proud, however when used in the wrong way it can blind one’s viewpoint.

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A Letter to the Marketing Team of…

Dear Marketing Team,

It’s Pride season!

I probably don’t need to tell you this though, you’ve probably had it in your calendars since January, if not since last Pride. You’ve got your rainbow flags sat in storage ready to adorn the float you plan to place on the Pride parade, you’ve got your hashtags at the ready, posts scheduled, and maybe a few rainbow themed products already on the shelves of your local supermarket. You are ready to celebrate Pride!

But, as always, you’ve forgotten one important thing; the meaning behind Pride.

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Judged for being a Two Mum Family.

When you become a parent, you will inevitably be judged for the decisions you make. Whether it’s by people you know or complete strangers. Some people won’t even know they’re doing it, but you will. It could be about whether you chose the bottle or the breast, the way you birthed your baby, deciding over baby-led weaning or traditional weaning. They will judge or pass comment.

But how about judgement over the person you choose to fall in love with? Or telling you that because you go to bed with a certain gender or sex, your child will fail.

Don’t believe it? This exact thing happened to me and several other rainbow families just the other day.

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I’m Only Human

The other day, my friend Emily started a really interesting discussion about how the saying “I’m Only Human” is used to excuse poor behaviour.

To be more specific, this relates to a very well known vlogger (you know, the one with the £50 £25 12 day advent calendar worth about £10 £5) who recently had several of their old tweets published from when they were a child (I lie, they were 20). The tweets have since been deleted, but thanks to the internet, they still exist.

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Let’s Talk About Discrimination. 

When was the last time you had to look around before you held your partners hand? Or the last time you squealed at the sight of your community being represented in the media? How about the last time you read a story about your community being victimised and discriminated against because of who they love?

The reason I ask is because Stonewall, a charity there to support and empower the LGBT community; recently released new statistics regarding LGBT Hate Crime and Discrimination in the UK, and the results are still as shocking as ever. 

As you’ll probably soon tell I’ve sat on this post for a few days, debating whether to hit publish, as no matter how many times I’ve tried I’ve failed to really write a conclusion to it. I guess until discrimination ends there won’t ever be a conclusion.  I guess I also needed to get a few things off my chest.

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