How to Build an LGBTQ-friendly Library for your Children

Before T was even born, Sharon and I were talking about our favourite books and what kind of books T would likely have on his shelves. Classics like; Guess How Much I Love You, Spot, and Goodnight Moon were all up there, but, very quickly, we realised that families like us were rarely represented in children’s books.

At first it was pretty easy to navigate around, we would perhaps change the odd “mum” to a “dad” so that there were two dads in a story, or visa versa; replacing the odd “dad” with a “mama”. But as time went on, or when T started wanting to look at the pictures in the books and subsequently challenging our choice in character, we realised we had to expand our library to make sure he was represented, not to mention show him a fair representation of society!

We already had a few diverse and inclusive books in our collection, but no where near enough – we needed more.

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A How-To Guide to Being an LGBTQ Ally

This week has been a difficult one for the LGBTQ community, it’s been exhausting to say the least. If it wasn’t being  compared to a contagion, it was hearing someone tell me that I chose to be gay.

But the thing that probably broke the proverbial camel’s back, what’s hurt the most, is the disappearance of so many so-called “allies”.  It’s not that they’ve turned homophobic – far from it – it’s just that haven’t been a little absent during our time of need.

Definition of an Ally:

A straight ally or heterosexual ally is a heterosexual and cis-gender person who supports equal civil rights, gender equality, LGBT social movements, and challenges homophobia, biphobia and transphobia.

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A Letter to Andrea Leadsom from a Two Mum Family.

Dear Andrea Leadsom,

I’m still angry.

Just like the contagion you compared me and my family to, your rancid words are still flowing through my veins. I would have written to you sooner, but the rage that spilled from my heart stopped the words from flowing. It burned like lava. Besides, someone else wrote it better.

To this day I still don’t know whether you understand the scale in which your words have hurt me and my community. An apology and retraction would go a long way right now, although I feel that the damage has already been done.

We know you’re not exactly an ally to minority groups, you have never voted on equal gay rights , you have never voted on allowing the marriage between same-sex couples, and you almost always voted against laws to promote equality and human rights (9 votes against and 3 absences!) – you must be so proud of your voting record – but how can you say that my son isn’t worthy of validation amongst his peers.

How do you sleep at night?

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LGBT History Month: Featured Family: The Sharon Moms

In our final post for LGBT History Month, we share a story from Brit & Sydney from The Sharon Moms about religion and their sexuality – something that doesn’t often feature on this blog! This is a fascinating story and I am honoured to share it for LGBT History Month.

If you would like to read any of our other posts for LGBT History Month, including last week’s post, you can do so here.

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LGBT History Month: Featured Family: Amelia’s 2 Mummies

In our penultimate post for LGBT History Month, we’re featuring Rebecca and Kelly from ‘Amelia’s 2 Mummies‘ – a UK-based, two-mum, family who write about life with their daughter Amelia. Similar to us, they started their conception journey only, however things quickly changed when they found out their donor was a lot closer than they realised.

If you would like to read last weeks post, you can do so here.

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LGBT History Month: Featured Family: The Legacy of Leo

This week, Jess from The Legacy of Leo has shared her thoughts on casual homophobia – something that is all too prevalent in today’s society – especially in schools – for LGBT History Month.

I’ve been following ‘The Legacy of Leo’ for quite some time, not just because they’re a rainbow family, but because they talk so openly and honestly about Miscarriage and Stillbirth – something which they have sadly experienced first hand. They also talk quite frankly about loss as a member of the LGBT Community, which they would describe as “being part of a small pond within a pond”.

Here’s their story, if you would like to read last weeks post, you can do so here.

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