The Week That Wasn’t Even The TWW

If you follow us on Twitter, you would have seen that last week was one of the most confusing and stressful weeks. It started on CD12 (01/06) when we saw the flashing smiley face of hope. Everything was going to plan, we had 3 donations arranged with D for CD12, CD14, and CD16 which, according to our Fertility App and previous cycles, this was the week I was due to ovulate. Perfect!

The donations came and went, but I still hadn’t received a positive OPK. I’d started to receive 2 faint lines around CD15 and CD16 but not the strong lines I usually get every cycle. Every other sign had appeared; EWCM, Ovulation pains, and a slight dip in my BBT, but no positive OPK. By CD16 I had seen 5 smiley faces by now which was odd to say the least, but no solid smiley face and no positive OPK. Now I was starting to shit myself worry. We had everything planned, this shouldn’t go wrong! But alas, it was.

I burst into tears around CD19 when S looked at my BBT that morning and advised me that I hadn’t ovulated. I was shell shocked, disappointed, and angry. Why was this happening to me – I never “not ovulated”. That was my thing, the one thing I could guarantee. I know I have plenty, if not tons, of Oestrogen running through me, it was the Progesterone that was the problem! Clearly the powers that be did not want me having a baby. It wasn’t fair.

CD20 then came round and just for a laugh I did an ovulation test as I was still having ovulation style pains and I had started to get EWCM again. So after waiting for just over a minute, out of no where, they appeared; my two favourite lines (if you could ever have favourite lines). YES! YES! YES! So that evening, we text D and asked whether he was free – he was – so we dashed over to his and had one last donation. With any luck, CD16’s boys may still be alive, especially if I was forming EWCM again – but I’m hoping this donation will do the trick.

The only thing I am anxious about is the fact that we didn’t have any Storks left, so we had to resort to our old ways of a syringe. Although I have no doubt about the boys travelling up there (hell, girls have had babies when the boys promised to “pull out” (yeah, I went to one of those schools)), the Stork is clearly much longer than the syringe and it sits directly on the cervix before shooting the boys up there, where as the syringe isn’t and, annoyingly, we didn’t have any extenders. I made sure gravity played it’s part for a good 30 minutes, so I’m hoping I did everything I could.

The next morning, CD21, two stronger lines appeared, and S notified me that I had had a massive dip in my BBT which is my signature move before ovulation. I had ovulated! YES!!! At least I know I ovulated now, which means my TWW began on CD21.

I still have no idea what the signs around CD14 were about. A few peeps on Twitter advise it could be related to a double release – which put S’s blood pressure through the roof (we haven’t accounted for twins) – but I doubt that was it. Perhaps I was a bit stressed which delayed the egg release but my hormones kept everything else going? Who knows. Either way, I’m happy knowing that I’ve ovulated after a well timed donation.

Let’s hope THIS one works!!!

K

Insem #6 – Part 1

So insemination numero 6 (Part 1) happened last night. We’re going to have 2 inseminations this cycle – hopefully one either side of ovulation, or one just before and one spot on. We’re still reading my temperatures at the moment, so an exact date hasn’t been confirmed by our app yet but we’re confident that we know a date range of 2-3 days.

Annoyingly, I have recently come down with a cold bug which couldn’t have come at a worst time and because of the bug, my temperatures are now fluctuating like crazy depending on how I have slept and how sick I am which is making the app work overtime.

I really don’t know how I’ve got a cold as I’m currently at my most healthiest what with all the fruit and veg I’m eating, not to mention my fitness. I can only assume that because of the piggy blowout I had last weekend that perhaps it weakened my immune system. Either way, I’m pissed off.

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The insemination itself wasn’t the most stress-free of environments, I must admit. Again, not a great start to TTC again.

The evening started with D texting us to say that he’s not sure when he would be getting off work and asked whether we could do tomorrow. After an immediate “NO” he was able to come down, just a little later. When he did arrive, I couldn’t be more relieved as I was one step closer to starting again. However, before we started, we did have to have words with him regarding dates.

In the past, when arranging an insem he’s regularly suggested another date because of his work; which has sometimes been fine, but other times and more often than not, the date he’s suggested wasn’t alright and, to be honest, was waaaay off.

D says he gets the process and ovulation, and has apparently done his research, but I’m still not sure – especially when he suggests a date 2-3 days off the date we have suggested! He’s a lovely guy, honestly, and I am so happy we have him as a donor, I just think he’s a little bit off when it comes to women and cycles still – which is frustrating as we feel awkward when telling him that his suggested date is not okay. We desperately want to keep him as our donor, but if he keeps suggesting new dates and/or not being able to make our dates, then we are going to have to seriously think about changing our donor or even putting everything on hold until we can afford a clinic. We don’t really want this, but we also don’t want our time (or his time) wasted.

When we started, we never expected the donor to know where I am in my cycle or to be all that interested to know it, why should they? But, if you want to become a donor, at least understand that a date is generally non-negotiable when it comes to insemination. Am I right? We completely understand that work can affect someones life, but if it affects it a lot – don’t become a donor. Simple.

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So once that was over and done with, we began. I think both S and I were a little nervous as we hadn’t done an insem for a few months – not that we told each other about our nerves, but it was clear as we ended up having bit of an argument over nothing towards the end, which made me feel terrible as the process should be fun, or at least relaxing! But it was far from it.

I couldn’t get comfy which stressed S out, and S was fumbling all over the place in comparison to previous times when she was in and out faster than the shake of a lambs tail, which stressed me out as I was worried the lads were getting cold (not to mention the fact that I was getting cold). Once it was done, we went to sleep all moody and grumpy. It wasn’t great. Nevertheless, I slept which is definately what I needed as I’ve woken this morning very relaxed and calm.

The sleep itself wasn’t the greatest nights sleep, either. I wanted to pee, but didn’t want to and I couldn’t breathe well because of the cold. Eventually, 2 hours later, I had to pee and I went to sleep in the hope that the lads hadn’t been flushed down the loo.

With any luck, this cold will take my concentration away from TTC and not encourage my body to fight ALL alien life forms – including sperm. I’ve read this can’t happen, but you never know. I guess, as usual, what will be, will be.

K

MyFitnessPal – A Review

If you’re anything like me, you will find dieting difficult and rather boring. It will mean that you can’t enjoy as many treats and you probably can’t enjoy that Friday night curry. You will be hungry and you will generally want what you can’t have.You will then give up after a few months and then moan about your lumps and bumps. However, when I started using MyFitnessPal as a tool towards losing weight and eating healthy I’ve found losing weight an enjoyable experience and, quite frankly, easy. If you’re wondering why a TTC blog is writing about fitness, you can read the reasoning behind our weight loss here.

Now, I’m not going to be one of those fatties that lecture on healthy eating like smoker-turned-non-smokers do but it is so important that you start off right and eat healthy. It will not work if you think that by just having a snickers bar for lunch (even though it may mean you stay within your calorie limit for the day) will be ok. It won’t, as your general “Fat” limit for the day, and probably the week, will be over. You will not lose weight – you must eat healthier for it to make a difference.

Firstly, MyFitnessPal will work for you as long as you’re willing to weigh out certain foods. Although it comes with a HUGE database of food; so that when you scan the barcode of the item it will appear with all the nutritional details – so all you then have to do is input how many, or how much, of said item you had, you will sometimes have to physically weigh out the item. You can just guess and put a rough estimate in if you’re good at weights, but if you want to get a realistic view of your daily intake, then I suggest weighing food out.

This will become a lot less tedious after a while as the app will remember previous foods used. After a while, you will also know how much 30g will look like, for example. You will also know how many calories will be in something, which will help you decide whether or not to have it. On top of this, you can also create “receipes” which enable you to input a whole meal and select how many it should serve (not how much of it you want). Once created, you can then select the receipe over and over without having to input each separate ingredient over and over everytime.

From the healthy point of view, the app also gives you a run down of how much of a particular group (carbs, fat, protein, etc.) you eat as well as how much of a certain vitamin you’re eating – which I think is really useful for someone TTC. This can be selected as a weekly or daily view. On top of this, you can record your weight as well as your general measurements.

MyFitnessPal

I really like this app, and it’s definately been the contributing factor to me losing weight. I could have given it a go without it, but I wouldn’t have realised that certain things were still bad for me, not to mention the amount. It may not work for you, as weighing your foods can be rather tedious, but after a while you will get used to it, especially if it means you can have that extra Yorkshire pudding. The app is clear and easy to use and it can link to hardware such as the Fitbit or RunKepper.

So, by logging what you’re eating and what exercise you’re doing you really find out how good (and how bad) certain foods are. You also see how easy it is to gain calories back into your “pot” by doing simple exercises. It’s not rocket science to know that a biscuit, for example, is unhealthy; but for me, finding out that wholegrain bread with fancy seeds in it is 124 calories a slice, broke my heart as I thought it would be a good alternative to normal brown bread, so it’s worth doing your research when you do your next food shop.

K.

If you would like to join me and/or S on MyFitnessPal, feel free to pop us a quick message to get our details to add us – the more the merrier!

Not A Great Start

Last week, were meant to have an insem as mentioned in our last post, however out of the blue I ovulated 2 days early.

As much as I’m always happy and reassured to see the smiley, welcoming face of the CB test, I wasn’t pleased when it arrived early. Like an eager guest, we were still setting up the party and it waltzed in expecting drinks and nibbles.

I’m usually spot on when it comes to ovulation, so I’m curious to know whether this is an effect of weight loss (anyone know?). I’ve probably just predicted things wrong, however with an app predicting things for you using your temparature – it’s pretty hard to get it wrong. Nevermind.

So with this, D was sadly unable able to make the new date which meant that any chances to do an insem this cycle were lost. This was frustrating as, by the looks of it, I was extremely fertile!

Not a great start, I know. Nevertheless, I will remain positive and take it as a chance to lose more weight as well as gather more data so that we can predict further dates.

At the moment, I’m currently entertaining AF (seems my whole cycle this month has come 2 days early) so when she’s buggered off I can start again.

Apologies for the lack of up-to-date updates – I promise I will get back into the swing of blogging. Thankfully, this was our only update, but I’m not happy that it was over a week late. Sorry.

Review – Fertility Friend (mobile iOS app)

When we first started the process of having a baby we were advised to record things such as temperature, cervical fluid and OPK tests (Ovulation Tests) as well as other things like mood, appetite and other similar things so that we know a good day to then inseminate.

With this, it was all well and good writing it down in a notepad or on the chart we were provided with that came with the basel body temperature thermometer, but we weren’t seeing what all the data, once together, really meant. So we needed to find something that stored and then analysed the data.

As we both live by our iPhones whether it is communicating via Facebook or Twitter, or doing our food shop or using latest photography app we thought it would be best to find an app suitable to record our fertility journey. I knew something would be out there as I already used a similar app (P Tracker) to record my periods as I have odd cycles, as mentioned previously, and it’s nice to know in advance (especially when booking holidays!) when the decorators are likely to be in.

In no time, we found an app called “Fertility Friend” or “FF Mobile” as it’s called on the app. *Please note that (at the moment) it is only on iOS devices (iPhone, iPad, etc).

Looking at it, it looks very basic and very much like a “Free App” that hasn’t had much effort put into the appearance. However, once we started using it and entering data we found that what the app lacked in looks it made up for in quality as well as how easy it was to use.

The app has two main features. The calendar and the chart.

The Calendar

Exactly what it says on the tin, the calendar marks and predicts up and coming ovulation dates, fertile dates as well as your period – all in nice clear colours.

Clicking on each date brings up the “Profile” for that day which you are to fill in. Details such as temperature and cervical fluid, to how you are feeling and what medication you have taken that day. It looks very scientific.

The Chart.

A little less technical than the calendar, the chart simply marks your temperature in a graph style as well as shows dates in which you are fertile/on your period underneath it. What I like about the chart feature, though, is the fact that once it has enough data collected it will then show you via a red crosshair the EXACT date in which you have ovulated. It does this based on the temperature & OPK information recorded (BBT – 3 consecutive increases, shows that ovulation has taken place and the progesterone is in your blood stream as this raises your temperature. This will drop dramatically once you start your period again as progesterone is needed to allow the fertilized egg implant in the uterus. If fertilization doesn’t occur, your body starts the cycle again . Later on once it has identified ovulation, and providing you have had sex or inseminated in the fertile days leading up to ovulation, it will tell you when to take a pregnancy test this is usually 2 weeks after ovulation.

What we also like about the app is that it links in and uploads to their main website (which we didn’t know existed until our phones crashed and we lost all our data on the app) a tool I find most reassuring as within 3 months we had a lot of data stored which is something I didn’t particularly want to lose. Furthermore, if you then want to download the app onto another device, you simply download the app, log in and it will sync the new device to the current device – very helpful.

The only main issue we have had with the app is that if you update the app by the way of different devices (I, for one, want to update my cervical fluid myself) it has a habit of not saving or overwriting the previous data with blanks. So, if S was to update my temperature on her phone first and then I were to update my phone with my fluid a few hours later, the app has a habit of overwriting the current data with the new data (i.e if I left the temperature blank, it would save blank). It seems to be able to have one main “profile” but it can’t seem to handle the use of it oh several devices. Very annoying. So our advice would be to only use it on one device, and access via this and the website.

So that we don’t finish on a negative, we want to simply say that the app is very good and we would recommend it to anyone trying for a baby. It doesn’t look very pretty and it can’t generally be used on several devices but it really is spot on – even more so than my period tracker (it predicted a later period date than my tracker as it took my temperature into account – very clever). It asks you to track things that you never thought to track which later contributes to the correct date of ovulation.

K & S

*We downloaded and purchased (the upgraded version) this app with our own money. The free app has all the above qualities, the only difference between the free version and the purchased version is that the purchased version has more details prediction details and assistance.