Night Terrors

When the screaming starts, you’re thrown from a deep sleep at a startling rate – trying to ascertain whether tonight is going to be a ‘Good Night’ or a ‘Bad Night’. Your baby sounds terrified and when you look at him he’s not with you. He’s often elsewhere. In his own mind.

A ‘Good Night’ is brining T into our bed, letting him fall into a deep sleep a few hours later – after you’ve been kicked and head butted as he get’s comfortable again – and then taking him back into his bed. With any luck, this will happen by 3am so you can get a few hours sleep before they wake at 7am.

A ‘Bad Night’ is bringing T into our bed but not being able to settle him until he stops screaming and crying through exhaustion (this can sometimes be over an hour) or you’re able to distract him with a drink of water, so that after drinking he’s calm enough to cuddle to sleep. Once calm, you’re not out of the woods yet, you have to try and sleep whilst a hot, sweaty, rather leggy toddler is rolling around or clinging on to you so tightly you’re stuck in an awkward position. With any luck you’ll get an hour or two of semi-decent sleep with your toddler.

Some nights, he’ll continue to wake throughout the night, even though he’s still next you, until it’s time to officially get up.

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An Alternative Gift Guide for Mother’s Day. 

Every year for the past three years on Mother’s Day, I receive a barrage of emails up to a month before offering to “give her what she really wants” or “treat her” this Mother’s Day followed by streams of pretty pictures of candles, jewellery, wine, chocolates, and flowers. One year I saw a kitchen aid (although that is a pretty cool gift) and other kitchen related items with the tag line “no more boring dinners, dads”!

When Father’s Day rolls round, however (although I don’t get as many of these emails!), I still see the same sentiment, although this time “what they really want” are deals on games consoles, flying drones, and driving experiences. Even the food on offer is different. Mothers get chocolates, Dads get steak.

how sexist!

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Around the World in 18 Raves: A Camp Bestival Rave with Big Fish Little Fish!

Last weekend, we were invited to Stanmer House in Stanmer Park, Brighton for our very first (family) rave as part of the Camp Bestival Tour around the UK with Big Fish Little Fish Events.

Although a new experience for us, this isn’t a new collaboration for the folks at Camp Bestival and Big Fish Little Fish. Between them they have been creating family-friendly parties at Camp Bestival for a number of seasons, and BFLF have been partying independently even longer!

We didn’t get round to attending any of the raves when we went to Camp Bestival last year, but after visiting last weekend we will be sure to add it to our list!

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T’s Reads: LGBT Books: Two Mums & Two Mums and a Menagerie, by Carolyn Robertson

We’re always on the lookout for books that represent us as a family as we feel it’s important not just for T, so that he doesn’t always feel like a minority, but for society, so that they can accept, and dare I say it, ‘normalise’ us as a family unit.

If you visit your local library or book shop, it’s very rare that you’ll see many stories that show same sex families living every day lives like other stories on the shelves. More often than not, you’ll see books that ‘educate’ readers about different families, but there aren’t many than don’t make a point of the family being a same sex family.

Carolyn Robertson and her partner are adoptive mums to two boys, and began her publishing platform ‘Sparklypoo‘ in 2014 as a way to create books for LGBT adoptive families when she saw that the market was lacking in this subject.

I wanted to create books that were full of colour, fun and humour that would sit alongside all the other books our children enjoyed. Most of all I wanted affirming books that all children could appreciate because the topic of having Two Mums or Dads was simply incidental to the story.

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Dreaming of Oversea Travel


T has always been a good traveller whenever we’ve gone on holiday. Regardless of distance, he’s generally happy to entertain himself by chatting to us about what’s going on outside, what we’re doing (a dozen times over) and where we’re going. When things get a bit dull or he doesn’t fancy sleeping, he’s also happy just chilling out on Hopster.

Seeing as he’s never been any trouble travelling, we’re really starting to think about going abroad – especially as he starts school next year (eek!) when travelling is likely to become more costly!

Although an airplane is very different to the comfort of your car – I think T would really enjoy being on a plane and up in the sky; looking at the clouds, not to mention having more room when it comes to his seat.

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