Toddler Kindness. #ClangersForKindness

I’m pretty proud to say that T has always been a kind person.

Since an early age he was happy to share toys with us and other children, and would often give us something without the need to have it back.

For an 18 month old, that’s not bad. Especially as we haven’t had to work hard at encouraging it. It’s just happened.

I assumed toddlerhood would be where everything he had would be his, and everything I had would be his too, and I’d be damned if I tried to take it back.

T’s kindness comes in a range of different colours and forms, and I’m lucky to have witnessed them all:-

1) Toys. Even with his favourite toy, T likes giving and seeing what you make of it. If you offer it back, he’s even pushed your hand back towards you indicating that you can keep it. He likes watching you enjoy it, he likes playing with people.

2) Sharing food. Everything and I’m mean everything is shared at mealtimes. Although he now accepts when I say “no thank you” there was a time when T would get quite upset when I wouldn’t take AND then eat something he offered.

3) Cuddles. There’s not a day that goes by where T doesn’t ask for a cuddle or kiss. Likewise, if I ask for cuddle, more often than not he’ll oblige and give me a quick squeeze.

4) Animals. I’ve said this before, but T is extremely gentle with animals. He clearly adores them. Even without telling him he always pats them gently, and when there’s a new animal in his vicinity he calmly toddles over to enquire about a stroke.

Other forms of kindness include waving to strangers, picking things up for me, helping me do housework, and generally being a sweet person.

I fully expect things to change as T gets bigger and older (although I really hope not), but considering he’s usually a bull in a china shop I’m amazed at how naturally kind T is at the same time.

***Prize Draw***

‘Kids Talking Kindness’ is a new campaign led by one of your favourite children’s TV shows ‘The Clangers’. 


Just like they do on their little blue planet, The Klangers are encouraging young people to share kindness.

To celebrate, we’re giving away a few Klangers goodies to one lucky young person (or adult wishing to enter for them!)


How to enter:

Pop over to our Facebook page and follow the guidelines (Terms and Conditions apply).

Good luck!

In the meantime, how does your little one share their kinder side?



Buggy Safety (Whatever the Weather). 

It’s not often T goes out in his buggy now that he’s toddling, however when we do, I worry about buggy safety and whether he’s safe.

When he was first born, I had this thought that I’ll be walking downhill and the buggy will slip out of my grip. Extreme, I know. Other worries included getting caught in the sun, wind, or simply losing stuff.

To combat my worries, the folk over at Babybundl sent me a few bits to help make our journeys safer.

Snoozeshade (RRP £19.99)

The Snoozeshade is a high quality UV Sun protector for buggies and prams, and fits most travel systems due to the elasticated fitting.

I was sent the first edition that boasts a zip at the front so you can check on your baby whilst they sleep or relax. New editions now come with a window at the top so you can check whilst you walk.

What I like about the Snoozeshade is that there aren’t any fiddly buttons or ties. Poppers are what connect the snooze shade to the buggy, making it fit easily to all types of buggies. It’s also easily removable because of this.

Teddy Tug (RRP £4.99)

T has recently started enjoying taking a toy or two out with him, and as a result things get lost. Although the majority of the time they’re a harder toy like a train or “phone”, I’ve often taken a soft toy out for comfort.

Our new friend ‘Patch’ is joining T at bedtime tonight. #SafeDreams

A photo posted by LesBeMums (@lesbemums) on

Soft toys, however, love puddles and getting lost and often don’t fit the changing bag either, so the Teddy Tug is a useful tool to prevent all these from happening.

Made of a soft neoprene, the velcro end strap safely around soft toys big or small, meaning toys never leave your baby’s side.

Buggy Tug (RRP £3.99)

And finally… my biggest fear. The buggy rolling away like something out of Hook.

The Buggy Tug helps with this, and is a simple design similar to the Teddy Tug. Simply feed one end of the strap to the buggy and place your wrist though the other end. It fits most handlebars (and wrists!).

So there are my top tools to assist in buggy safety. What are your tips?


The above items were sent to us to review from BabyBundle, however all thoughts and opinions are our own.


Days Out: Bluebell Railway.

I’m not going to lie. Sharon and I are total nerds. We love new gadgets, we love new technology. But we also have a love and respect for older gadgets and technology. If anything, the older technology is far more impressive, in my opinion, and often more beautiful.

So when T’s grandad decided to take us to Bluebell Railway the Sunday after we came back from holiday I was over the moon.


Bluebell is an old Railway that has a working line from Sheffield Park to East Grinstead. It boasts the largest collection of steam locomotives and is primarily run by volunteers. I’ve only ever seen a steam engine from afar, but I’ve never been on one!

As soon as we arrived, we booked ourselves on for 10:30 train to East Grinstead. When Grandad was booking for tickets, I was admiring my surroundings. The station is quite literally a time capsule.

Whilst we were waiting we had a brief look around the museum, book shop, and the back yard where trains that weren’t in use were kept. T enjoyed running in between trains, making his voice echo and listening to Grandad tell him about the trains.


10:30 rolled round and it was time to board our train. Don’t ask me which one we were on – I’m a nerd but not an anorak! We quickly secured ourselves our own carriage, which was a blessing as T was full of steam (get it?) and wouldn’t have kept still in the main compartment.


T enjoyed looking out the window and listening to the toot toots, I enjoyed looking at every piece of history in the carriage – some pieces I even remember being in trains when I was little. With the weather being on our side, the journey was really pleasant – a perfect end to our week off.

After a visit to East Grinstead where we treated Grandad to cake, we were back at the station and on a train back to Sheffield Park. On the way, we decided to stop at the stations in between and browse the museums based there. Again, stuck in time, with shops and cafes looking no different than when they were in use back in *coughs*. They were stunning.


After a short delay thanks to signal failure (some things never change), we departed our station and arrived at Sheffield Park – having a very brief look around the rather expensive gift shop.

I would definitely recommend giving the railway a visit. You don’t have to ride the trains, but it’s worth it if you do.



Our Family Holiday to Wales

A few weeks, and what feels like a lifetime, ago we went on our second family holiday. This time, Wales was our location of choice. Our first family holiday was based in Cornwall and T was only six months old! How time has flown.

It was an early start on the Saturday, but once everything was packed it wasn’t long before T was fast asleep.

From Brighton it took just over six hours, with only two decent stops. It was actually a shorter (and easier, in my opinion) distance than Cornwall, suprisingly. The journey wasn’t as bad as I thought, although I only had last time to compare it to (last time wasn’t great). T slept for a good chunk of the way, only waking before our first stop, and then watched a film or read books for the remainder of the way. It definitely could have been worse, but he was a star by only really moaning once towards the end.

Arriving just after 4pm, we unpacked, did a quick food shop, grabbed some dinner and then went to bed! Our caravan was gorgeous – T really didn’t know what to make of it but enjoyed running up and down the corridors and hiding in bedrooms.

What’s lovely about going on holiday with T so young is that we get to keep most of our holiday traditions. We still get up early (thanks to T) and we still explore the local area and holiday park on the Sunday. We still eat naughty things (although still watched what T ate) and still played board games of an evening (once T has gone to bed).

On Monday we went to Folly Farm which is a wonderful farm and zoo. This was probably our wettest day, however packed for a monsoon we all had our raincoats on and T had his puddle suit on.


Thanks to the rain, we pretty much had the place to ourselves. Our favourite parts were the penguin walkthroughs and the indoor farm area. We’ll definitely come back when we return to Wales.


On Tuesday we explored Caves in the Brecon Beacons. I vividly remember coming here when I was young, so this was a lovely jump back in time. What made this special was that I was able to remember what the stalagmites and stalactites looked like back from when I was a child, so seeing what they looked like today got my science-nerd radar going.


T wasn’t too keen on walking around here – maybe it was too dark or noisy – so we opted to carry/wear him for the majority of our tour of the caves, although he really enjoyed splashing in the rock pools inside the caves. Once outside though, he was more than happy to toddle off up the hills and go dino spotting!


On Wednesday we went to Manor Wildlife Park which was quite literally a stone throws away from the holiday park. Feeling less like a zoo and more of an animal experience, with a majority of enclosures being walkthrough ones, we really enjoyed getting up close with some amazing animals (constantly holding a very touchy feely toddler back).

They had wallabies (that you could also feed), gibbons, and lemur walkthroughs, and wonderful Rhino, Camel, and Tiger enclosures. The place itself is also beautiful with a lot of the walking taking place in woodland.

On Thursday we went to Freshwater West which is the beach where part of Harry Potter and The Dealthy Hallows (Part 1) was filmed.

This was completely off piste, and not your usual tourist attraction, as it wasn’t at all sign-posted. It was only found when S found a bit of Wi-Fi and remembered that Wales was quite famous for film locations.

The beach was absolutely stunning and had miles upon miles of sand and sand dunes, volcanic rock, and other rock formations that housed several pools. I wanted to take all the pebbles home or at least collect all of the driftwood!

The beach is certainly frequented by locals – which is always a good sign. Before it started raining, I was lucky to be able to capture a few family shots and the natural beauty of Wales.

On Friday we explored Pembroke and its castle. As well as farms, we love a good castle. It’s made more enjoyable watching T clamber around the castle hallways, look outside the open windows, and simply listen to the sound of his own voice echoing.


This was one of my favourite days as the weather was perfect. We were able to have a picnic outside (instead of the car or on the move) and Sharon and I were able to casually walk around the castle knowing T was safe toddling behind us (minus the steep, spiral staircases!).


Saturday then came round and it was back to good old England. The journey home was pretty much the same as our journey going; with T sleeping for the majority of the way. He got a little tetchy towards the end, but then who wouldn’t be a little upset returning home from a lovely holiday?


Back to normality, and my current task is clearing the massive washing pile that’s been created over the past week. The stash of welsh cakes and barabreth, however, is helping massively!



18 Months Update. 

The last six months since our last update have flown by, and yet they feel like an eternity ago. I really can’t believe T is now 18 months old.

T is a proper little boy now, constantly on the move and constantly eating! He has his own little character and is smart and funn with it. He is also very kind – giving out kisses and cuddles without being prompted, and likes to share everything he has (as long as you give it back).

I’m really enjoying this stage at the moment. I can play with T and he plays back, he genuinely enjoys being read to, and he genuinely understands what I’m saying to him. I know most parents say this; but T is so so smart.

If I ask him to put something on his head, he does. If I ask him where the cow is, he gets it and even makes the noise a cow makes. He knows the difference between and fork and a spoon, and knows which cat is which when I ask him to go look for them. I don’t mean to sound so shocked, but that’s a lot for someone who’s only been around for 18 months!

Outings are even more enjoyable what with T being on the move and constantly noticing new things around him and not just the things that move.

Some days out are a bit slow, but that’s because we notice T often likes to just watch and ponder.


T is (surprisingly) still asking for boob every now and again, even though he went through a phase of not asking/wanting it when it was offered. At 18 months I just assumed food and water would cover everything now, but obviously not.

He now only has it before his morning nap and before bed. He used to ask for it around 2pm, but when I offered water instead he was quite happy with that. I feel he often asks for the sake of asking but doesn’t actually want any milk. I know that Breastfeeding is also a comfort thing, but I’m not even sure it’s like that with T as he can sometimes be on for a matter of seconds and he’s off.


There was a time when T was copying a few words, like; “Oscar“, “Car“, “No” and “Mama“, however things have slowed down now – I’m not sure whether T is just prioritising other things now he thinks he knows ALL THE WORDS at 18 months.

He’s very vocal, and often has a lot to say in baby language, but they’re never real words or repetitive noises to represent something. For example, he won’t say anything similar to “thank you” when we give him something even though we are CONSTANTLY saying “Ta”. He knows stuff, that’s for sure – certain animals or objects around the house for example – he just doesn’t attempt to copy the words. He does, however, shake his head when he doesn’t want something and that’s pretty cool.

We’re always talking to him and asking him questions, not to mention reading to him, therefore I’m not worried we’re not doing enough. I guess it’s just a case of waiting and listening.


Leading on from the above, we’re also starting to experience the ‘terrible-twos’ or whatever age this starts now. Our holiday was a fine example.

Although we had an absolutely wonderful time on holiday, with T enjoying himself and still finding time to laugh, we found that T was quite emotional during that week, with tantrums happening daily – if not hourly on some days. Although the majority of them occured when we stopped him from walking somewhere dangerous, or taking pebbles off of him that he wanted to eat, we also had random bouts of tears.

We thought it may have been one of many leaps or milestones, or maybe even teeth, however it could have been down to the change of scenery. We took lots of home comforts with us, but I perhaps it all got a bit much for him. I’d be interested to see if this was the case, or whether this is the start of ‘terrible-somethings’.


Now we’re over the sickness spree T is 100% back to normal when it comes to meals.

He polishes off all his meals these days and still enjoys a variety of flavours (even heat/spice). His favourite is still anything with potato in it, although his quickest devour yet is still mama’s Lasange. He still isn’t keen on Apple slices, but when I grate it into his porridge he’s quite happy.

Jam face


Not as bad as a few weeks ago where he was waking every few hours, but we do still get the occasional midnight wake.

Mama can usually get him back off and then we’re good until 7, although more recently we’ve been having 5:30 wake ups, which is a killer when one of you has been up with him at midnight.

New Ventures

In addition to the above, the past six months has seen new shoes, new words, and lots of movement. T is starting to bend his knees properly when he walks, and has almost lost that “toddler toddle”.

We also ventured into the unknown this month and got T’s hair cut!


I was reluctant at first, as I really wasn’t ready to lose the last few strands of ‘baby’, but his hair was wild and looking a little messy. I have no qualms about long hair, but it just didn’t ever sit right and was often leaving him quite hot.

We went to our usual barbers in Brighton and fell in love with their newest Barber. He wore a top hat so I was already smitten, and T was pretty calm throughout – only having to resort to the iPad towards the end. The cut only took a few minutes (probably not even 5) but it felt like a lifetime when I started to see curls drop to the floor.

The cut turned out great – and we even managed to salvage some curls on his head still AND for our memory box.

I expect the next 6 months to fly – which is bound to happen when you’re working full time with a busy toddler. I’m really hoping to capture as much as possible. This comes from feeling like I’m not always “present” in the moment. I’m often thinking of the next meal or when nap time is due, meaning I often can’t remember when T started doing a certain thing or making a certain noise. It’s tough to say the least, and I feel awful, but I think we’re doing ok now. I’ve certainly relaxed a little.

The last 6 months, although have still flown, don’t feel to have passed as quick as the first year. I’m hoping that’s because I’m making an effort to watch everything going on around T. It’s hard not to when he’s off before you even put him down!




A #MamiaDaysOut Day Out with Aldi

Last week, we were sent a hamper by the folks at Aldi as part of their #MamiaDaysOut challenge to use their products whilst on a day out.

We’ve always liked Aldi; their nappies being the best we’ve used (well, that T has used), so we were keen to try their kids food. 

We’ve never done any form of puree, only baby-led weaning, so when part of the hamper contained purees we were curious as to how we could get involved.

If you follow us on Instagram you’ll see I’m quite a fan of baking and making a lot of meals from scratch, so I decided for our day out that I would use some of the items in T’s baking as well – setting us up for the day. 


Pancakes with Strawberries. 


1 Purée pouch (we chose bananas and apples), one egg, 2tbsp of plain flour (or enough until you create a thickish batter), 1/2 tsp of baking powder. 

Heat a pancake pan on a medium-low heat and dollop 3-4 pancakes onto the pan. Cook until holes form in the batter and then flip. Cook for a further minute. 


Cheese and Cucumber Sandwiches with veggies, fruit, and an apple and pear pot with yoghurt. 


Grilled Chicken with Carrot and Parsnip mash, and corn.

Recipe for mash:

Boil and mash 2-3 medium potatoes and mix in 1/2 the purée pouch to replace any milk/butter. 


Frozen Apple and Strawberry popsicle.


Mini Rice cakes and homemade oat, fruit and nut bars. 

Other ideas include; Fruit Purée on toast or a dip for apples, pineapples or banana pieces. 

All in all, I found using Aldi’s new range a success, with the pouches going quite far in a recipe. I also liked how tasty they are on their own and could easily have one myself as a snack or mixer with yoghurt. 

We still have a few in the cupboard, so pop over to our Instagram to see how we use them over the next few months. 


This post is an entry for Britmums #MamiaDaysOut Linky. We were sent the above products for the challenge and to review, however all thoughts and opinions are our own.


Days Out: Blackberry Farm. 

A few weekends ago we took ourselves off to Blackberry Farm. Surprisingly, we’ve never been despite being massive fans of farms. Based near Glynde in East Sussex, it’s actually quite a large farm; housing everything from Goats and Llamas, to Chinchillas and Ferrets. There are also several play areas and an indoor soft play.


We thought it was a little pricey at first (£8 per adult), however when we saw what was around we thought it was well worth it. There are extras such as tractor and pony rides, however we decided to wait until T was a little older before paying to do these. The facilities are clean and tidy, and you can see the enclosures are kept to high standard.


It was a gorgeous day, so all the animals were out and about. T headed straight for the duck pond, however quickly found a few new friend in the form of a goat who was eager to nibble T’s hand which was full of goat feed. I thought this might have frightened T, but he actually quite enjoyed it



After visiting a few animals we stopped and had a picnic, and then ventured around the rest of the farm via a set trail. Thankfully, T wanted to be carried at this moment which was handy as the ground was a little uneven.


In no time he fell asleep; missing the llamas and horses, so we finished our trip with a visit to the cafe and treated ourselves to a coffee cake. There is also a little gift shop on site where we also treated T to a tractor.

Considering it was a last minute find, we had a really pleasant day and will definitely visit again soon. T was too small for the soft play and larger play areas, and wasn’t really interested in the petting barn, so we already have plenty to do when we visit again.



Mother of all Questions. 

Being a same sex family, we get asked a lot of questions. Some generic questions about being parents, others more tailored to us. 

When I was pregnant, people were often very forward and asked things like –

How did it work?

How did you decide who would carry?


Who’s the Father? 

Depending on when you asked me I could answer most of these questions calmly and sensibly, I know a lot of them were based on pure ignorance and the person asking didn’t mean any harm. 

When T arrived, the questions didn’t stop. We regularly got asked;

How did you guys conceive? (We got asked this a lot). 

Is it any different being a gay family? 


Who’s more “dad”? (Yeah! I know!).

We often didn’t mind – it was nice that people were curious about certain things – I’d rather educate than not, although the last one should have remained in the question bank.

It was when T hit a year (and a bit before) though that we got asked the mother of all questions.

When are you having another one?

Not, “Will you” or “Do you think”. “When”. 

I’ve got pretty good at answering this now as I know this is one of those inevitable questions, but here’s where we’re different to most other parents and why it’s probably not ok to ask this –

It was really hard to conceive T. 

Two years of countless cycles, a visit to a kinesiologist, and more strain on a relationship than I have ever imagined. I don’t think I could go through that again. 

Plus, we’re too busy watching the one we worked so hard for grow up!

And why is there the assumption that we (or other parents for that matter) want another one? What’s so wrong with one?

We missed out on enough when we were trying for T, we certainly don’t want to miss anything else whilst trying for another. Not right now anyway.

So if you’re thinking of asking this question, especially (but not necessarily) to a same sex family, have a think about what you’re asking. What have they already been through?



A Step in the Right Direction.

Last week I took my mum to see the new Star Trek film. As far as a review goes, which this post isn’t, it was great. I highly recommend going to see it.

Anyway, about 10 minutes into the film the crew arrive somewhere to refuel or whatever, and the character Sulu is jumped upon by, I assume, his daughter. He then stands up and lovingly puts his arm around his partner. A man.

Sitting in the cinema, two things then happened. Firstly, my inner monologue kicked in and commented on how not only was it nice for the writers to play homage to George Takei, who played the original Sulu and is also gay, but also how nice it was for them to portray a gay person without it being a “thing”.


It sounds odd, especially as gay culture is so open these days, but you’d be surprised how often gay characters feature in films without it then being made a feature, a way to add adult comedy, or simply to tick a box. I’ll give you a hint. It doesn’t. A gay person is very rarely portrayed by a gay person firstly, which I find odd in itself, and is often given very stereotypical characteristics which border on insulting. I’m not going to describe what I mean but I imagine you know what I’m talking about.

Back to the film, the second thing that then happened whilst sitting in the cinema was that I listened to the audience. Were they going to moan, make some comment, or heckle. Were they going to think the same as me and comment on how nice it was seeing two husbands?

No. There was nothing. Silence.

I know I shouldn’t have been waiting for something, but I was. I’m also aware that as a gay person I shouldn’t have even given a second thought to that scene. But I did. The lack of LGBT people realistically represented in film and TV is so low that when you do see it it jumps out at you. Remember this ad?

Outside of the cinema, the scene got a mixed reaction. Some were saddened to hear that a kiss was removed from the scene during final editing – I couldn’t have cared less. It was obvious who the man was to Sulu, why make it really obvious? A kiss would have added nothing. Others were frustrated that the only reason the character Sulu was chosen to be gay in the film was because of his predecessor – I actually thought it was a nice homage, although I do agree with George Takei who commented…

“How exciting it would be instead if a new hero be created, whose story could be fleshed out from scratch rather than reinvented… This would have been more impactful”. 

But then that’s just me being picky.

Either way, I think it’s a step in the right direction for all communities, straight or gay, to see LGBT people in films without it being made funny. It’ll just become part of the mainstream like other minority groups now do. Remember that first interracial kiss between Kirk and Uhura in 1968?

Credit: Wikipedia

No, me neither, but ratings plummeted after that episode, however how many comments or stories do we see commenting on the same subject now? None. With any luck, the more LGBT people we see in films and TV (I’m looking at you, children’s television) the more “normal” (I hate myself for saying that) it will become. The silence in the cinema last week was evident that this is now a possibility.

This year has already seen a lesbian character in the new Ghostbusters film, and a gay couple is featured in the new Independence Day – all without comedy or stereotyping. They’re featured without making it a thing and without taking anything away from the film, and that’s all I want to see. Not in every film, just more often.

What are your thoughts? How many gay characters have you seen in films in the past year? Do you think it’s important?