Lesbemums: Why I'm Kinda Enjoying Life, Now That School Has Started
It’s safe to say that when T started school a little part of me had been taken away. For the past three and a bit years we had a good routine and I had the opportunity to still be with him for a decent amount of time as well as work three to five days a week.
But, for the past few weeks, I’ve come to realise that T being in school is actually pretty handy, and after the novelty of school runs wore off I started to relax and take full advantage of the spare time I suddenly had!
Don’t get me wrong, I still miss our days out and relaxing mornings together – especially as I still have no clue what he gets up to – but having spare time and being able to things I wasn’t able to do previously has certainly softened the blow.
I’d love to know if you can relate to any of these.
More spare time
Although I have the same amount of time between getting up and going to work, because T is gone before 10am I can get home and get almost triple the amount of work done as I no longer have any interruptions!
In the same few hours I had previously, I now give Oscar longer walks in the mornings, make (decent) lunches, cook dinner for Sharon and I, housework, and even get on with some writing or bullet journalling!
On the same note, because I have more available time, I’m not rushed. I also have room to make mistakes or change plans suddenly (I even went to the shop the other day to buy an aubergine! Just because I could.)
I’ve felt my anxiety drop somewhat, and if I just don’t feel like engaging or answering questions I don’t! I can just lie on the sofa until I need to leave for work.
Each week I have two whole days off and these days are priceless. Once the boy is dropped off at school I am free to do whatever I want, when I want, and at my own pace.
More often than not I’ll be doing something blog related, but other times I might do some gardening, take Oscar on an extra-long walk, or maybe even do some baking. This week, I’ve booked myself in for a massage!
On top of this, I found my self drinking hot drinks, making decent breakfasts and eating it at a more reasonable hour, getting jobs done that I haven’t previously been able to do at all, and generally getting everything back in order once again!
Whilst I was writing this, I also asked a couple of friends, here’s what they had to say:
Peace and quiet and time to myself to start exercising again. Lucy
Meeting other mums on the school run, you’re forced to get dressed and get out every day and it opens your kids up to a wider variety of people they can learn from.Leslie
Being able to drink warm tea whilst simultaneously not tripping over child related debris all day! On a more helpful note the ability to get all the ‘one day’ things ticked off the to do list without interruption! Lauren
Time. Time to organise the house, sit on the loo in peace and essentially catch up on all of the jobs that you haven’t had time to do in the past four years! I also love that I’m up, dressed and out of the house for a walk early in the day. It’s made me much more productive! Julie
Opening up my social circle, me making new friends when the baby days can sometimes feel isolating, your thrown into seeing and talking to other parents and real friendships can be made. Chantelle
Don’t get me wrong, I still miss the little wotsit when he’s at school but finding these few plus points – no matter how small – has made the transition so much easier on my part!