All of the Emotion.  -

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Aw bless him. It must be harder for him because he’s been poorly a lot as well hasn’t he? I wouldn’t worry too much about it, he knows you’re there if he needs you but I suppose children have to learn to process emotions in their own way. I’ve always been quite hands off with my two, they come to me if they need anything, if not I let them figure it out.
Nat.x

It’s so tough, isn’t it? Most of our meltdowns are when Matilda wants us to blow bubbles but can’t bear to hand over control of the bubble wand – why are we trying to ruin her fun by angling it in such a way that it works?! Beasts!

Overall, we’re getting off quite lightly, though, and I think that’s because she’s so good on her feet – we almost never have to pick her up; sometimes there’s ten minutes of trying to remain calm whilst saying, “That’s not for playing with/please come over here/not just now, no/food…?” (“Food…?” works best), but she gets to walk away from wherever she’s not supposed to be all by herself. So hopefully things will get easier the steadier T’s walking becomes.

One useful thing I read is that explaining everything to toddlers can backfire; they don’t understand logic at this point so they don’t understand the point you’re trying to make – they just end up learning to argue instead (apparently). However I don’t think I’ve ever just said “No!” to Matilda – we just have standard phrases (like “that’s not for playing with” and “the cat’s trying to sleep”) which mean “no” but give it a bit of context; the majority of the time, she accepts those phrases without argument.

If you get any good advice, let me know, too!

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