A Proud Moment as a Same Sex Family 

It goes without saying that whether you’re a same sex family, a single parent family, or a co-parenting family parenthood is full of proud moments. Eating solids, walking, and talking all come in at the top of the list when it comes to achievements.

As a same sex family though we have our own proud moments…

But as same sex parents, there are a handful of milestones that mean more to us than any of the others. For us, we haven’t reached many as T has only been around for a mere 23 and a bit months, but the other day we had our first ‘two mum milestone’.

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Our Top Books for LGBT Families (Childrens Book Week). 

This week is Childrens Book Week. Celebrated every year, it acts as a way to encourage and inspire children to read.

As a same sex family we often keep an eye out for story books that have a same sex family in it, or a special message. Ones that just happen to have two mums or two dads in it as part of the story, instead of ones that specifically educate or explain same sex families.

Here are a few of our favourites:

Mummy, Mama, and Me / Daddy, Papa, and Me. 

One of our first LGBT books, this simple board style book details in a few pages what Mama Does, and what Mummy does.

It doesn’t explain LGBT families, but instead makes them like any other family. Really simple and a good starting point for your collection.

The Different Dragon 

Another wonderful book that doesn’t “defend” or “explain” same sex families. It’s just a story about a boy at bedtime who just happens to have two mummies.

Ten Little Fingers and Ten Little Toes. 


Not a specific LGBT book, but it does teach about equality and how everyone is different but equal at the same time.

The artwork is gorgeous, and I like how the book flows.

Spacegirl Pukes

Spacegirl is just about to leave on another mission when she falls sick.

Her mummies (she has two) also fall sick as well as the cat and rocket she’s meant to fly into space with.

Tango Makes Three


This story is about two male penguins that live together in a zoo in New York. The story details their journey into fatherhood.

Probably one of my favourite LGBT books as it’s based on a true story!

If I Had a Hundred Mummies

This story is about a little girl who talks about what it would be like to have a hundred mummies. Would they all be bossy? Would it be like having a hundred hugs?

In the end, she decided she’s happy just having the two.

Elmer


Elmer is like no other elephant, and that’s ok! When Elmer tries to be someone he’s not, people are sad.

I love love love Elmer and whenever I read it it reminds me of Pride.

The Family Book. 

One of the few books we have that actually teach about alternative families directly.

It’s boldly illustrated and a really simple book to explain alternative families.


What are your LGBT book recommendations? How are you celebrating #ChildrensBookWeek?

Mama’s Day

Despite S not wanting to make a fuss, we decided early on, before becoming parents, that she would always have a special day to herself that would celebrate how amazing she is click this site

 
We also wanted to make sure T had a day to make cards and gifts for me as well as S, but not on the same day. We wanted to spoil each other separately. 

Last year, we celebrated Mama’s Day on Fathers Day. At the time it seemed the only logical option, we even thought about it from T’s point of view; such as when T would be making cards at nursery – we wouldn’t want him to feel awkward on Father’s Day. But there was still something we didn’t like about it. Fathers and Mamas were similar, right? Wrong. S isn’t a Father. She’s a Mama. So why were we celebrating her day on Father’s Day? It didn’t seem right for us no matter how much we tried.  

Being part of such a diverse community means that this set up may work for others, and that’s great! Other same sex couples even share the one day so that Mother’s Day becomes Mothers’ Day. This is what I love about it. There’s no “right” way. Even though it can be tricky buying the right card, we still have the opportunity at the moment to tailor the day to how we like it. On this occasion though, Father’s Day just didn’t work for us. 

Shortly after Father’s Day, someone suggested a Mother’s weekend whereby S would have the Saturday and I would have the Sunday. This sounded perfect. This way means S can have her own day and I (T) wouldn’t have to remember to save a separate card around Mother’s Day to then give at a later stage like he had to on Father’s Day. 

It’s a shame that we have to have these conversations, but unfortunately the world hasn’t caught up yet despite the fact that it’s not a new thing for same sex couples have children. 

So whether you celebrate Mother’s Day, Mothers’ Day or Mama’s Day, celebrate it on the Saturday or the Sunday, or celebrate it at a completely different time of the year, we want to wish you all a very Happy Mother’s Day. 

   

K