LGBT History Month – Featured Families: My Two Mums
I’m pretty sure My Two Mums were the first same-sex family blog we followed when we first started out on our TTC journey.
We hadn’t really come across many young same-sex families online, certainly not ones in England, so finding My Two Mums gave us hope right at the beginning.
Back then, Clara and Kirsty were just Clara and Kirsty! Little M hadn’t even arrived yet! Three years have since passed and M is now a bright young boy!
It’s really been a pleasure to read (and watch via their Instagram) M growing up.
Who are you?
We are Kirsty and Clara, two women in love from Dorset. We write an award winning blog about our lives and adventures with our 3 year old son. Clara is the Mummy in our house, where I am the Mama. We both bring very different qualities to our household and are just doing our best to be the best parents we can be.
How long have you been with your partner?
We met in 2007 and pretty much Uhauled straight away. Next year we will have been together for 10 years and married for 7 years.
Where did you meet?
We met online and a friendship developed and how learned how local we were to each other.
How many children do you have? How old are they?
We have a 3 year old awesome ball of energy who is everything we could have hoped for in a child and more. We hope to add to our household at some point, but our life plans are all about working on the now until that happens.
What’s the best thing about being a parent?
Every age is my favourite age. Children just get more and more awesome as they grow. It’s amazing that you have no idea how much you can love a child until it comes into your life and just causes your heart to expand with so much love.
What challenges, if any, have you faced as a same-sex family?
Ignorance is the biggest challenge which is why we started a blog. We wanted to increase visibility and show we are just your regular family, whilst also tackling issues that mean a lot to us. It’s also interesting that challenges are not always what you expect.
Has it been easy to teach your children about diversity? Have they encountered any problems? If so, How did you react?
At 3 we are only just starting to touch on subjects about diversity as in our son’s world we are no different to other families yet. There haven’t been any issues so far.
What would be your message to a young person “coming out” today?
Take your time, don’t feel pressured or forced to define yourself in others eyes. The internet is a giant place with many communities that will offer support as and when you need it. You do not have to do this alone.
What would be your message to a couple starting out on the TTC journey?
Do your research. Know your budget and know that it will be your own personal experience. The thing that can be most draining when you are going through something is those who think they know how you feel as they had a similar experience. At the end of the day, your experience is your experience, don’t let others take that away from you. Also don’t be afraid to lean on friends during your journey, if they are true friends, they will be with you every step of the way. It can be a bumpy ride, don’t face it alone.
How about those especially worried about persecution?
Do not stand for homophobia. At any point if you feel victimised there are many avenues online that allow it to be reported. It is not something you have to take as part of the process. There is no excuse for homophobia and with our voices we can make change.
What does LGBT History mean to you?
It’s the celebration of all the amazing humans who have played a part in shaping the world we live in today. When I was asked when I was 18 why I didn’t like marriage it was because it was illegal. To be married at 33 with a child is amazing. I am so grateful for those who have stood up and moved mountains. There is still so much to be done, but I am proud to live in a country where movement is being made.
Where can we find you?
Thanks for having us!
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