It’s an odd question to be asking now we’ve started on this journey to parenthood, but one that is very valid.
We’ve gone through the “Can we afford to have a child?” stage, which we came to the simple conclusion of no, but can anyone really afford children. Especially as it is estimated that they cost you on average around £18,000 a year.
Today’s question only dawned on me whilst I was on a conference call to one of my suppliers. It came about in a very odd way.
I was being asked general questions about our systems and then all of a sudden the guy asked me what my role at my company was, so I explained which shocked him (its pretty extensive – & it’s just me) he then asked “Do you have children?” To which I answered not yet.
And all of a sudden I realised. How are we going to cope?
I work long hours, K works shifts.
I have to travel with my job to pretty extreme time zones. This has proved hard for K and I as a couple at times, just because we’ve not been able to see each other or talk.
My job isn’t going to become any less stressful, and the travelling is only likely to increase as our company expands.
So, How will we cope?
Actually more of, how will K cope when I’m away for weeks at a time?
How will I cope not being able to help out with the little one when away? (Guilt and I don’t go well together).
How’s my sanity going to be as I miss my family whilst it is still in its infancy?
These and so many more questions, and I guess the answer is that you just find a way. You have to.
At the end of the day, having a child isn’t easy, and it’s not like we aren’t all aware of this when we make these decisions, but by not having a child our lives wouldn’t be fulfilled.
To be honest, I can’t wait to have these things to worry about, because then my life won’t be centred around me. It’ll have so much more meaning and hopefully a reason to ignore the stresses of work at the end of the day, as it’ll give me such a rewarding outcome by focussing on my gorgeous family.