Across the world, many happy couples dream of having a baby and starting a family. However, not every couple is able to conceive naturally. Thankfully, there are many options on hand that allow couples of every gender and sexuality the opportunity to start their very own loving family, such as adoption and IVF treatment.
IVF treatment continues to grow in popularity in each year, especially amongst those who struggle to conceive naturally or same-sex couples. For lesbians, it means both parents can be involved in the conception of the baby – as one parent can provide the egg whilst the other carries the baby. Though the success rate of IVF continues to grow, sometimes you may not conceive on the first try.
Trying for a baby is a nerve-wrecking experience, and therefore, whilst you are waiting for the results of your IVF treatment, it’s important that you find various ways of supporting each other. Especially during the ‘Two Week Wait’.
The Two Week Wait (TWW) refers to the time between having IVF treatment and finding out if it has been successful, i.e the period of time before taking a pregnancy test. However, there are various ways in which you can support each other during this time.
Focus on the positives
Whilst it is important not to get your hopes up too high, you should also try to remain positive when you can. If it does not work, there are other options available for you to have a baby of your own.
You still have a lot in life to be thankful for, and this treatment, though it may feel that way, is not the be all and end all.
Keep busy
If you stay at home during this time, you are giving yourself ample opportunity to allow your mind to wander. Therefore, during the TWW it is important that you keep yourselves busy. Spend the evening at your favourite restaurant or visit a local beauty spot.
The more you fill your week with fun, relaxing activities, the better you will feel. Keeping distracted is a great way to keep worries at bay and ensure you are taking care of yourself during difficult times.
Reach out for support
Although it may feel this way, you are not alone. In fact, half a million babies are born through IVF each year, with more than two million treatments administered. As a result, there are plenty of support groups both online and in person where you can talk to others who understand how you are feeling.
During this time, you may wish to reach out to a therapist who can help you find ways of processing your emotions and guide you in the best way to manage your anxieties.
Be gentle with each other
Remember, whatever worries you are feeling are mirrored within your partner. Even though you may be the one carrying the baby, they want to share this experience with you and start a family.
With that in mind, try to be a little kinder to each other during this time. Listen to their worries, hold their hand when they need some support. A small amount of kindness can go a long way.
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