Lesbemums: Why Weddings Are Totally Different For Same-Sex Couples
The purpose of a wedding is to demonstrate publicly that two people have committed to becoming partners for life. They will stand by each other, no matter what the circumstances of their lives – or that’s the theory at least.
Weddings are tricky enough for heterosexual couples, but there are things that only same-sex couples have to deal with when it comes to getting hitched. Take a look at these ways that planning for a same-sex wedding is totally different.
You Have To Check The Legal Status Of Your Marriage
You may be thrilled about the prospect of marrying the person you love – and rightly so – but there may be people you know and want to invite who might not be so cheerful about the prospect.
Same-sex couples have to navigate the tricky gauntlet of potentially having to deal with discrimination in their midst. People might not say that their personal feelings are getting in the way of attendance, but that could be the reality.
There’s nothing traditional about same-sex weddings, so why should the dress code be any different? Your wedding day is an opportunity to let rip and show the world your fashion sense.
For men, it could be bright bow ties, or for women, a black wedding dress with all the usual frills: the choice is yours.
You Might Need To Vet Your Vendors
While your guests might be happy to accommodate your wedding, the same might not be true of your vendors, like your florist or people providing food at your venue. It’s a good idea, therefore, to check ahead of time to ensure that all of your vendors are LGBTQ-friendly.
How can you do that? First, you can ask them about their views directly. You can also look for online reviews or ask your LGBTQ friends who have been married whether they’d recommend anyone.
The Wedding Budget Is Different
The wedding budget for a heterosexual couple is familiar: you have the cost of the man’s suit and the woman’s dress, and it’s all factored into the overall price. But with a same-sex or LGBTQ wedding, all bets are off. You could have two dresses, two tuxedos, or two outfits custom-designed for the occasion.
In a traditional wedding, the bride often arrives in a limousine. But if there are two brides, then what? Both come in style, and both walk down the aisle? The decisions you make can have a profound impact on how much money you ultimately end up spending.