The Signs -

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Becks says:

Honestly, you’re doing everything right. Even the most fertile couple with sperm on tap can take 18 months to conceive. So long as you do the normal sensible things, there’s nothing more you can do than hope.

When you start introducing sperm into your body when it’s not used to it it does weird things to you. My wife has had a crazy shift in her periods including increased pain since we started trying, the only time you need to worry about stuff like that is (sorry if it’s TMI) if there’s big clots coming away with a lot of pain when you’re on your period. If that’s the case, it might be worthwhile talking to your doctor about it.

We’ve been doing this for 18 months now, it’s the most heart breaking journey we’ve ever been on but just keep focusing on the end product.

lesbemums says:

Thanks, hun.

I know it was going to take some time but its getting depressing now.

Saying this, I really must stop writing posts like this because I forget how much longer others have been trying. I’m so sorry.

Becks says:

Don’t worry about upsetting people with your posts, there’s a lot of us in the position and we’re all here for support. When it doesn’t work 1st, 2nd or 3rd you kinda feel that it never will because it seems like it worked for everyone within 3 attempts.
It took my brother and sister in law 4 years to conceive their youngest and while I hope it doesn’t take anything like that long for you guys, it shows that perseverance pays off.
Give me a shout on twitter if you want a bit of a rant or chat x

Laura says:

Our friends went through years of trying IUI before finally getting pregnant 1st time with IVF. It’s the main reason we went straight for IVF despite the cost and the fact I do know of people for whom IUI has worked. Overall it is just a really difficult and unpredictable process and I wish you lots and lots of luck with your next cycle. X

lesbemums says:

Thanks, lovely.

Unfortunately, we can’t afford anything like IVF or IUI. So, we’ll have to stick to AI and keep trying. X

AndiePants says:

I’m totally with you on this! I think the third try and fail has been the hardest. I keep thinking it really shouldn’t be so hard – a + b, right? Then when I hear about all the barriers, I wonder how anyone gets pregnant. Unfortunately, I think that all (or almost all) “symptoms” are caused by progesterone which is in abundance during the TWW, pregnant or not. That + heightened awareness can equal craziness. I am 100% with you on the confusion. I’m hoping the BFP is around the corner this try.

lesbemums says:

Thanks for the comment – it’s much appreciated. Sorry for the delay, we’ve been taking advantage of the weather.

It has felt a little harder this cycle, especially when a lot of other couples seem to get pregnant after the third try, plus I’m a third time lucky girl so I thought this cycle might have been it. I am desperately trying not to think about it, but you’re always going to think about it when you’re actively doing something.

Saying that, although a lot of couples are getting pregnant it’s reassuring that we’re not the only ones having trouble, if that makes sense? I don’t want to sound evil, I just thought there may be something wrong if I’m not getting pregnant (I am a woman with working bits at the end of the day) but knowing I’m not the only one is reassuring.

I think you’re spot on with the symptoms. The BBT are also playing games because, obviously, the progesterone will appear before AF appears. We’re thinking about having a month off just to see what my BBT are like without the sperm and then we can compare and see whether the the months with sperm are any different so we know whether we’re on the right track.

Anyway, thanks again for the reply, it’s reassuring having a nice support network. 🙂

K

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