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DeCaf says:

As someone who is TTC currently, I may be is but I love advice. Especially from people who have been successful. I sometimes feel that I don’t have much to say to those in the mothers club. I haven’t yet arrived there so I can only speculate on some things.

Araneth says:

It was really tempting for me to unfollow some of my blogs when those women became pregnant after I had my miscarriage. I couldn’t do it though. I knew their stories, their heartaches, and I am truly happy for them. That is not to say that I was not jealous of women that I knew in real life, and knew that some of them had no business having a child at this point, but the women on my blogs had been in more of a struggle than I had been. I don’t know if that had something to do with it? Like I had the mindset, “well they deserve it because they went through worse than I did.” And it is very well likely that that is the case. Either way, even though it makes me sad sometimes, I haven’t unfollowed anyone. Sometimes, I just scan quickly through their blogs lol

lesbemums says:

You’ve hit the nail on the head!

I am definately jealous of those women that had it easy and simply “fell” pregnant. It wasn’t fair. But for those that have had identical or even harder journeys than us, I want to continue reading about their journey and how happy they are. It makes my waiting worth it because I know what’s coming.

Completely agree with your points here. I don’t like people who ram “advice” down your throat, but I don’t mind those who give advice when asked. I think TTC is so filled with bizarre emotions and things we have never dealt with before. Who’d have thought we would feel jealousy because an egg met a sperm inside someone else’s body?
It’s s roller coaster alright…

lesbemums says:

Definitely! You literally can’t control a thing! I didn’t want this post to come across as harsh – I completely understand the emotion and why women may unfollow, etc, when a BFP is announced, however I perhaps don’t necessarily agree with an unfollow of ladies who have had difficulties falling pregnant. I am, however, rather upset when women who fall pregnant, fall pregnant straight away and then go on the give advice about fertility and what you have to do. They will get an unfollow.

Yup. I feel the same. I’m happy for my fellow ladies who fall pregnant on this journey. Yes, it stings a little, but it also gives me hope that one day we will get our forever baby.

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